I have been married 10 years and we have 2 wonderful children. I am a jack of all trades and an expert on nothing. haha. I am really no one to give advice, but I shall try as this week on suyl that is the task!
I think the best marriage advice I could ever give someone is simple: Remember who your spouse fell in love with and keep it interesting at the same time. You know the old saying the frumpy wife (that was always so glamorous) says? "I have a man, why worry about my looks?" Uhhh ok, my answer is this. "Yes you have him, now don't you want to keep him?"
Too often (at least where I come from) people change drastically once the marriage becomes comfortable. This is not a new pair of heels ladies. This is a real person with real feelings. (same goes for men). Did you love making a huge Sunday meal, and now years and children later you scramble for a frozen concoction that will merely sustain you? Were you all heels, makeup and pearls and now you barely have the energy to pour yourself into your yoga pants?
Does your life partner enjoy the game? Then don't use the final quarter to remind him soccer practice is tomorrow. Does he get *happy* at the site of costumes? Then buy stock at costumes.com. Keep it interesting. Surprise him/her. Find out what s/he loves and master it. Remember you are also a *couple", not just Mr &Mrs. Smith, not just Mommy&Daddy. Make time to enjoy being a couple.
I understand life is hectic, trust me. I know not everything will remain the same. I do, however urge you to remember who s/he fell in love with.
I hope I at least make a little bit of sense through my rambles, haha.